Well wife-beaters never stop do they.
I used to be a really robust and happy-go-lucky kind of girl.
But today at 62 I feel like a really shabby-old-faded version of who I used to be.
I am a single mother now. For more than 40 years I was married to my childhood sweetheart.
Today my daughter and son are all grown up, married and have children of their own.
I just hope they live a happy life with their life partners and children.
I know and believe that all marriages will have hiccups but it's how you deal with it that matters.
I had to learn things the hard way. In my marriage I was victimized, shamed and violated almost everyday.
I considered it as normal mostly because that's exactly how my mother and most of the married women in my family were treated.
I guess I just didn't know the difference. Had I known it I would have dealt with my husband differently and I would have garnered some self respect for myself at least.
My friends and family tried a lot to talk some sense into me and I knew they wanted the best for me but still I was not strong enough to walk away from it all.
It's like the same old story told by similar disadvantaged women just like myself - we didn't have the privilege to get a decent education so we were not able to make it on our own and therefore had to take all the hits and blows.
I really took it all so that my children could find a better future for themselves - I'm happy today that they are independent and earning a living.
It took me 30 years to finally muster up the courage to leave him while all along he had been keeping a woman on the side. As soon as I was out of the picture they have got married.
All those years he denied it and there were so many instances where I had caught him red-handed and thrown him out of his own house - only to take him back in again.
I know I sound like a pathetic woman and I believe I was exactly that but not anymore.
I am also aware that people I know have laughed at me for my stupidity and I want to tell them that I wasn't brave and strong enough then.
But today in my 60's I am still glad and happy that I am a free human being and that is such a liberating feeling.
I don't know about others but for me I am still in recovery from learning to trust people.
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Domestic violence is a critical issue that affects communities across the globe, including the Maldives. It’s important to shine a light on this hidden problem and discuss ways to support victims and prevent further abuse. Here’s a brief overview to help understand and tackle domestic violence in the Maldives.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence includes any form of violence or abuse by one person against another within a household or family. It can be physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse. It's not just a personal issue but a matter of public concern that affects the well-being of individuals and communities.
Recognizing the Signs
Recognizing the signs of domestic violence can save lives. Some warning signs include unexplained injuries, sudden changes in behavior, fear of a partner, and financial control issues. If you or someone you know might be experiencing these signs, it’s crucial to seek help.
Legal Protections in the Maldives
The Maldives has laws in place to protect individuals from domestic violence. The Family Protection Act is specifically designed to combat domestic violence and offer protection to victims. It’s important for everyone to be aware of their legal rights and the protections available under this act.
Seeking Help and Support
For anyone facing domestic violence, know that help is available. Various organizations in the Maldives provide support, counseling, and legal advice for victims. Reaching out for help is a brave and vital step toward safety and recovery.
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Police: If you are in immediate danger, calling the police is a critical first step. They can provide protection and guide you through the process of filing a report.
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Support Services: Look for local NGOs and support groups offering services for victims of domestic violence. These organizations can provide confidential advice, counseling, and shelter if needed.
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Legal Assistance: Legal services can assist with protective orders and guide you through the legal process to ensure your safety and rights are protected.
Supporting Victims
If you know someone who might be experiencing domestic violence, offering your support can make a significant difference. Listen without judgment, provide emotional support, and encourage them to seek professional help. Remember, the decision to seek help must come from the victim; offer your support but respect their choices and timing.
Working Towards Prevention
Prevention is key to ending domestic violence. This involves education, raising awareness, and promoting respectful relationships from a young age. Community programs, schools, and media can all play a role in creating a culture that does not tolerate violence.
Domestic violence is a challenging issue but addressing it openly and offering support to those affected can bring about change. Remember, no one should suffer in silence, and together, we can work towards a safer, more respectful society in the Maldives.
The Ministry of Gender and Family and Maldives Police Service in partnership with UNICEF Maldives has launched the “1412” toll-free, call centre and the “Ahan” mobile application to report cases of Domestic Violence
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